Not the most ‘incompressible’ as far as titles go. It stays because it helps me get the idea out the door.
When people are rambling on in an sentence after they’ve very obviously made their very obvious point, I get annoyed, excited, irritated, or pissed depending on how interesting the idea is, how I’m allowed to react, and how much I like the person.
Until a couple of days ago, I’d barge in with my response or my question or my thoughts, often letting the other person know that I’ve interpreted their intent correctly. That was when it stuck me.
People don’t always speak to get their ideas across, although that’s an important part of communication. People speak to feel important. People speak to get airtime. People speak so they can get that soundbite they’d been practising. People speak to feel heard.
And when you don’t let them speak, you’re stealing this right from them. Letting them run out of steam, even when they’re larping on, might sometimes be the fastest way to reach a conclusion.
Maybe all that the other person wants from the negotiation is to be able to express their point fully, clearly, and completely.
Now, I don’t advocate for an FFA. There are people, and I can think of a few, who’d take up all the space they’re given and then some more. They could be self-important, they could be tone-deaf, they might be self-unaware (whatever the right word is). Diplomacy, tact, or outright rudeness go a long way in these scenarios.
Good learning, overall.